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Breaking Rapport To Attract More Women

She is a stunning blonde sitting alone at the bar. The first guy, let’s call him Adam, approaches her and starts a conversation. Things go well, and eventually he asks her “so, what do you do for a living?” She responds “I’m a nurse”.

Adam responds “Oh wow, sexy and caring, that’s great” then continues with “you know, nurses don’t get paid enough for all the hard work you do”.

Adam is attempting to build rapport. He wants her to like him. He has paid her a compliment and has shown empathy about her job. As the conversation continues, he will probably agree with everything she says, even if he believes the opposite.

Now another guy, John, enters the bar and approaches her. After a few minutes of conversation, he asks her the same question “what do you do for a living?” and she answers “I’m a nurse”. But his response totally throws her off …

“A nurse? Does that mean you like washing old people’s bottoms?” she looks at him, with a surprised look on her face. She can’t believe what he just said, and playfully slaps him on the arm. She begins to qualify herself, explaining that her job does not involve washing anyone’s bottoms.

As the conversation continues, John playfully challenges some of the things she says. He is never rude. He never *negs* or intentionally offends her.

She becomes curious about him, wondering why he is acting different to all the other guys. She actually enjoys the conversation more, because she is taken on an emotional rollercoaster ride. She is kept on her toes, wondering if he likes her or not, and guessing what he will say next.

Most attractive women are used to men trying to build rapport with them. It’s a very boring conversation when someone agrees with everything you say.

However, when you break rapport by disagreeing or playfully challenging her, you stand out from all the other guys who attempt to build rapport with her.

Think about it. This is what high value men or “bad boys” do. They challenge women with their own opinions and beliefs. They don’t put attractive women on a pedestal. Instead, they make fun of them, whenever the opportunity presents itself.

Here are some examples of breaking rapport …

HER: “I love olives”.
YOU: “Really? I think olives taste like rubber”

HER: “Will you buy me a drink?”
YOU: “I don’t know you well enough yet. Tell me about yourself …”

HER: “Have you seen the new Brad Pitt movie?”
YOU: “Why would I? Brad Pitt is gay.”

Another way of breaking rapport is using self-depreciating humour. It’s especially powerful when women attempt to build rapport with you. You’re not accepting her indicators of interest too easily. You’re more of a challenge.

HER: “Lets go dance”
YOU: “No thanks. I dance like a retard”.

HER: “What are you doing on Saturday night?”
YOU: “Probably playing World of Warcraft with my buddies online”.

HER: “How old are you?”
YOU: “What’s with all of the questions? Are you a cop or something?”

Another easy way of breaking rapport is to focus your attention on something or somebody else, for a while. In the middle of conversation with a woman, you may shift your focus to her friend (or your friend) and ask them a random question.

Or you may interrupt her mid conversation, because you suddenly noticed a fascinating painting, object, or event nearby. Give that “thing” all of your attention and make comments about it.

She wonders why, unlike other guys, you are not giving her your full attention. You seem less needy and appear to have higher value.

Breaking rapport is a powerful way of demonstrating that you’re an attractive, high value man with your own opinions and interests, other than her.

 

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Jack is the co-founder of Succeed At Dating and a superstar at day game.
The art of meeting and attracting women in the daytime. Jack
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